Going through a divorce or legal separation is a complicated and overwhelming ordeal.

So if you’ve made the decision to divorce or are facing divorce proceedings because your spouse has stated their intention to end the marriage, you might be wondering what first steps you should take to get through this difficult process as quickly and amicably as you can.

But below are some of the most popular tips:

• Get educated and do your research on how the divorce process works;
  
• Learn about divorce mediation because it's a peaceful divorce option;
  
• Get organized financially;
  
• Choose an experienced and competent professional to guide you through the proceedings;
  
• Take responsibility and actively participate in your divorce negotiations;
  
• Treat divorce negotiations with your spouse like a business transaction;
  
• Get emotional support and learn how to lower your emotional reactivity;
  
• Focus on your children and don't badmouth your spouse in front of your kids;
  
• Stay in your integrity;
  
• Focus on the big picture.
  

Knowing that steps taken up-front can make the entire divorce process more peaceful, fair and drama-free, we asked 52 experts (in addition to Joe and me) to reveal their best and most insightful tips on preparing for divorce with simple, actionable tips.

We also asked a number of former clients who are now divorced what, if anything, they would have done differently to make their divorce more peaceful, fair, cost-effective and/or easier on their kids. And what divorce advice they have for others getting ready to start the divorce process with children.

I hope you find all of the following insights helpful during your own divorce preparation!